In our relationships we can be ‘right’ or we can be ‘happy’ but it is nearly impossible to be both ‘right’ and ‘happy’ at the same time. This is why we must learn the art of letting go. Letting go of the things that are holding us back. It is the principal of release. Jesus said, “whose sins you retain shall be retained whose sins you release shall be released” (John 20:23).
Have you been hanging on or letting go?
How do you let go?
• Let go of the excess baggage that you might be carrying around. Release all the toxic emotions and negative thoughts that are holding you back.
• Change the filter through which you see others. Develop new patters of response to others. Catch yourself when you are editing that person instead of edifying them in your mind.
• Give others the benefit of the doubt. Assume their intentions are right. After all you don’t know what they may be going through.
What is more important being ‘right’ or being ‘happy’?
Just a Thought,
Valentine’s Day is the holiday of love. This weekend people across the nation will share their love with flowers, candy, cards and romantic dinners.
But what is love? Is love today different than it was 100 years ago? How do we define love in a lost world?
I came across this definition a long time ago. “Love gives at the expense of self. Lust gets at the expense of others.”
In other words love is not a mushy emotion that embraces all, forgives all, forgets all, and requires nothing. In order for love to be love, it must be sacrificial. You could say that the main theme of the entire Bible is love. “For God so loved the world that he gave His only Son.”
Love is less what you feel and more of what you give. Think about this – you can have a relationship without love; but you can’t have love without a relationship. Love and relationships go hand in hand.
Have you ever considered how relationships are forever?
You never really end a relationship. The form of a relationship changes, but the relationship continues. No matter how separated, hurt or angry, feelings might continue through memories and shared experiences we had with that person.
When you break up a relationship you are not ending the relationship as much as you are changing the form of the relationship. You change it from friend to enemy or from former spouse to ex-spouse, from former boss to ex-boss.
Even death doesn’t change the fact that you were in relationship with a loved one. Death doesn’t end a relationship; it only changes it’s form. This is why we must take better care of our relationships and be judicious about the relationships we enter into.
I wish young people understood this truth so they would avoid recreational relationships that are used for immediate gratification and then abruptly discarded.
Avoiding Relationship Busters!
Willard F. Harley, Jr., wrote a book called Love Busters, in which he detailed six ways we relate that destroy love.
1. Selfish demands: we want things our way, and we want them that way now. How can anyone love a dictator?
2. Disrespectful judgments: we’re more critical of those we love than anybody else in the world. Why can’t we be as courteous and respectful of our loved ones as we would a stranger?
3. Angry outbursts: we let all the resentment from our job, our school and our casual relationships blow up when we get home. Everybody walks around on eggshells because they don’t want the time bomb to go off.
4. Dishonesty: if we can’t trust the truth of what our loved ones say, then we can’t trust them. Without trust, there can be no deep relationship; there can be no love.
5. Annoying habits: why do we keep on doing things that we know irritate those we love?
6. Independent behaviors: how can we live in love when we just do our own thing and never consider the needs of our loved ones? Consideration is the fruit of love, and real love considers others first.
I admit I have violated all six. But each day, I get a fresh start to love the people God has blessed my life with.
Just a thought,
Trinity Church will celebrate 50 years of ministry along with the dedication of our new facilities this weekend. Our new facility includes a 350 seat chapel, a large commons area with a coffee shop, a waterfall, and a two story children’s ministry building. It is an exciting season for the Trinity family. As I was thinking about the dedication services, I couldn’t help but think about the importance of dedication in every endeavor of our lives.
Not only do we dedicate buildings,
we dedicate ourselves to the LORD.
Success doesn’t always come to the talented but to the dedicated, but dedication comes at a price. Never do things halfway, because it will always be the other half that counts.
At age 5, Spencer West, tragically lost both his legs, and the doctors told him that he would never be able to walk or lead an active life again. Undaunted, the Canadian-born 31 year old has defied all odds. He spent a year in training rigorously, making sure his arms and hands were strong enough to support extreme physical pressure, and then he climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro.
It took him a grueling 7 days to make it to the summit. He traveled using only his hands for a stunning 80% of the trek. Through sheer drive, determination and with his two best friends encouraging him, Spencer West showed us that anything is possible when dedication is applied.
Dedication is what a mother shows when she raises her child. Dedication is what a father shows when he provides for his family. Dedication is what a student shows in pursuit of his or her educational goals. Dedication is what a solider, sailor, airman or marine shows when they defend our freedoms.
In 2014 may we all dedicate ourselves to the Lord’s service.
Romans 12:1 (AMP)
1 I APPEAL to you therefore, brethren, and beg of you in view of all the mercies of God, to make a decisive dedication of your bodies [presenting all your members and faculties] as a living sacrifice, holy (devoted, consecrated) and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable (rational, intelligent) service and spiritual worship.
Just a Thought,
“What you think about
you bring about.”
We all have areas in our lives that we would like to change. No one is exempt. Some things are minor and some are not. I’m talking about the things that started attaching themselves to our lives since we were young, and now they seem to be very comfortable, unwanted houseguests. Yeah, those! During my recent study time, I read the following statement: A person’s life will not change very much unless their thinking is challenged.
What did that statement do to you? Did it go down into your emotional well and stir up unchallenged sediment? Did it remind you that there are still some things undone? If you said yes, keep reading.
Did you know that the word repentance comes from the Greek word metanoia, and its definition is none other than:
“a change of mind.” Some have referred to it being one of the greatest words in the New Testament.
We think thousands of thoughts each and every day but the only thoughts that become reality are the thoughts that are tied to an emotion. Imagine the power of a single thought being held long enough in our mind and then acting on its authority by virtue of entrance. That thought doesn’t have to ask permission to generate an emotion, it just does. Which in turn creates a reality.
“For as he thinketh in his heart,
so is he”
Proverbs 23:7a (KJV)
If it can work against you, it can also work for you. A thought held on long enough produces an emotion, which in return produces a conviction, which translates into a new reality.
Thought + emotion + conviction = REALITY
The ancient teaching of Scripture states, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.”
What you think about continuously, you’ll eventually do or become.
The thoughts you are holding onto, or should I say: the thoughts that are holding onto you about God, yourself and others are producing your current reality.
Let’s bring these thoughts a little closer to home —try personalizing the phrase using a pronoun: “My thoughts held on long enough produce emotions which in turn create convictions that result in my current reality.”
By altering the quality of your thinking you will alter the quality of your life.
Just a thought!
1. Prayerfully determine your goal and the personal reward you will achieve from it. [losing weight, saving money, getting a better job, becoming an expert in your field, improving your marriage etc.]
Joshua 1:8 (NAB)
8 Keep this book of the law on your lips. Recite it by day and by night, that you may observe carefully all that is written in it; then you will successfully attain your goal.
2. Get an initial plan of action to achieve your goal. It will be incomplete don’t worry you can update it later.
Habakkuk 2:3 (GW)
The vision will still happen at the appointed time. It hurries toward its goal. It won’t be a lie. If it’s delayed, wait for it. It will certainly happen. It won’t be late.
3. Determine the knowledge and skill required while accessing the gaps in your own abilities.
James 1:5 (NLT)
If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.
4. Enlist others with the knowledge to fill those gaps.
Galatians 3:3 (NIV)
Are you so foolish? After beginning with the Spirit, are you now trying to attain your goal by human effort?
5. Humble yourself and be willing to learn from others.
“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” – Socrates
“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.” – John Wooden
James 4:10 (ASV)
Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall exalt you.
6. Update your plan on your newly acquired knowledge.
Proverbs 21:5 (CEV)
If you plan and work hard, you will have plenty; if you get in a hurry, you will end up poor.
7. Execute the plan anticipating adjustments along the way.
Proverbs 16:9 (GW)
A person may plan his own journey, but the LORD directs his steps.