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Find Your Sweet Spot

Find Your Sweet Spot

Discovering your “sweet spot” in life is what takes you to a new stratosphere of living where you are doing more with less. There is a term that is applied frequently to athletes who enter a certain dimension of play–it’s called ‘the zone.’ ‘The Zone’ is an extraordinary dimension of optimal performance. The zone can be achieved not only by athletes but my musicians, mathematicians, business leaders and yes even stay at home moms.

What is the zone? Well, in baseball, the batter is in the zone when the baseball looks as big as a basketball. In basketball the player is in the zone when every shot drops into the basket because the basket looks as big as a hula hoop.

Think of some of the greatest athletes you know they have found and know how to enter ‘the zone’ of optimal performance, also known as the Sweet Spot, the Flow or the Effortless Present. How do high achievers discover their sweet spot? Well it doesn’t take a degree in science the sweet spot is acquired through intentional and sustained practice by highly focused athletes resulting in spectacularly amazing feats in their field of expertise.

When the conditions are right in your life, marriage, business, walk of faith you can enter into your zone. It takes intentional work coupled with sustained focus in a designated area of your life to attain it, but you can!

Look at it this way; there are four levels of learning, applied to anything in life. I learned this in my Life Coaches Training:

Level one: Unconscious Incompetence.
I don’t know what I don’t know.

Level Two: Conscious Incompetence.
Now I know what I don’t know.

Level Three: Conscious Competence.
I know what I know.

Level Four: Unconscious Competence.
I am not aware, and I know.

Anything in life that you have learned: from riding a bike to flying an airplane occurs through this process. Take driving your car for instance. There are times you are in ‘the zone’ and can’t consciously remember if you stopped at all the red lights after you arrive at your destination.

Dr. Richard Keefe, the director of sport psychology at Duke University, explores this phenomenon in a book called On the Sweet Spot: Stalking the Effortless Present. He writes in his book, “The more you do something, the more the brain changes to devote its energy to that function.”

Do you want to attain new levels of output in your life? Then imagine what would occur if you became more intentional with your choices and time. Begin to intentionally practice at prayer, start Scripture reading and memorization. What could happen if you hired that Life Coach, took that course at The Kings University or pursued a mentoring relationship with a role-model in your field of interest? What new level could your marriage go to if you made a new commitment and begin to live out of it? I challenge you today be more intentional about achieving your goals and your results will be spectacularly amazing!

Just a though,

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Father Figure

Here at Trinity we were blessed this year to have the director of the Family Research Council Tony Perkins, at our Heartline women’s clinic annual banquet. His organization has done extensive research on families, and this is what they made an amazing discovery:

The research revealed that the church, to a certain extent, could fill the void of an absentee parent when the single mother or father immerses himself or herself in the life of that church. What hope this discovery offers single parents who are struggling to fill both roles!

As a pastor, my heart goes out to you, “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” (Galatians 6:9)

I firmly believe one of our biggest challenges in America isn’t the economy or the current immigration problem. No, I believe our biggest challenge is the decline of family values and fathers who have checked out. Here at Trinity I have the high honor and sacred trust to preach to thousands weekly. In my communication I like to address men as men. Because I know a man wants to be addressed as a man. So let me speak to all the men with a father’s heart. This is not in any way meant to condemn you, but to challenge you.

Men, if you have fathered a child, you should be married to that child’s mother – not just living with her. Do you know why that is important? Because every commitment you make in life is formalized. Whether you buy a car, rent an apartment, or buy a home, you sign an agreement. Marriage, however, is much more important than an agreement or a contract. It’s a covenant. God loves marriage and God designed marriage. Why?

Malachi 2:15 (NLT)
“15 Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”

Marriage is for the benefit of children and society at large.

But you might say, “Pastor I’ve made mistakes. It’s too late. I can’t undo what has already been done.”

Okay granted, so from this point forward say, “God help me be the best father I can be from this point forward, under the circumstances.”

God is a God of second chances and He will help you and bless you. Do not be negligent in committing to raising your children and loving them the best you can under the circumstances you are in.

If you’re in a blended family, love those children as if they were your own. And please, don’t play favorites. Love them all the same. Love them uniquely, because we need to love them differently because they have different needs. But don’t love one more than the other.

The Bible is filled with examples, in the Old Testament of the patriarchs of old loving one child above another child and creating all kinds of anarchy and rivalry, jealousy and contentions.

This is my challenge men; my prayer for you: don’t be AWOL. Be present and love your God, wife and children.

God Bless.


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Give And Take


Relationships are selfish by nature. We are in relationships for a reason; there is something we expect to receive from them. We usually give something in exchange for something else. All is good if we are mutually agreeable under God to what that exchange is. Exchange is good – exploitation is bad. Any time we enter a relationship with selfish motives as opposed to benevolent motives, we set that relationship up for its own demise. We must enter our relationships with the expectation to give not to receive.

Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served,
but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
Matthew 20:28 (NIV)

When we enter a marriage expecting to receive, we begin to exploit the relationship until it is dry. It is easy to begin reducing our relationship down to a business transaction. It becomes a quid pro quo. “I gave you this. You must give me something of greater value in return,” reduces our relationship to a series of loans and debts, sinking the relationship into emotional bankruptcy. Get your relationship out of the red and into the black by making more deposits than withdrawals.

Just a Thought,

Don’t Give Up, Give It Over

When it comes to relationships, we often look for the exit instead of working through our differences. Whether it be a work relationship, marital relationship, friendship, or in our churches, relationships become unworkable when we allow our differences to define us.

God made us all different, so you can’t truly accept another person unless you are willing to accept their differences. We become angry when a relationship isn’t living up to our expectations. Yet, many times we have not clearly defined what those expectations are in the relationship.

Unspoken wants, needs and expectations can become the source of our anger and disappointment. No one can read your mind. You must verbalize your feelings and expectations. We assume the other person knows what we want or need, and when those unspoken needs go unfulfilled we retaliate by complaining, withdrawing, or by verbally attacking them.

When we legitimately love someone, we don’t use emotional blackmail to get our way. In relationships that matter most, is your love, trust and acceptance conditional or unconditional? Is it “I love you only as long as you do this? Or is it “I love you, period.” The more conditions we have in a relationship the more distance there will be in that relationship. Even if someone could live up to all our expectation we still wouldn’t be satisfied; we would only increase the demands. It’s called human nature.

It is only when we love others without expecting anything in return–that we are truly loving others the way God loves us.

Just a Thought,


Being Right or Being Happy

In our relationships we can be ‘right’ or we can be ‘happy’ but it is nearly impossible to be both ‘right’ and ‘happy’ at the same time. This is why we must learn the art of letting go. Letting go of the things that are holding us back. It is the principal of release. Jesus said, “whose sins you retain shall be retained whose sins you release shall be released” (John 20:23).

Have you been hanging on or letting go?

How do you let go?
• Let go of the excess baggage that you might be carrying around. Release all the toxic emotions and negative thoughts that are holding you back.
• Change the filter through which you see others. Develop new patters of response to others. Catch yourself when you are editing that person instead of edifying them in your mind.
• Give others the benefit of the doubt. Assume their intentions are right. After all you don’t know what they may be going through.

What is more important being ‘right’ or being ‘happy’?

Just a Thought,